Whoever you are and whatever you do, we all have fears – whether it be fear of the unknown or fear of what could be…
The last couple of weeks I had to face 2 of my fears. The first was definitely fear of the unknown or rather ‘unfamiliar’. We are currently updating our website and trying to make it represent ‘us’ a lot more. Our old website was fine – but for us’ fine’ is never good enough and we wanted it to be more interactive – where our customers can not only find out more about our Dribble Stop Tops, but be able to talk to us, read our blog, find out what other people think, and even buy them.
Easy right? Well we knew what we wanted our website to look like, but to be completely honest we had no idea of how to achieve this!!!! A Widget, a Plug-In, a Gallery Bank – yeah we had heard all these phrases before but had no idea what they actually are. And after looking at the ‘HTML’ that we had to change and write to make things central, left, right, bigger, smaller etc we were even more baffled.
My first reaction was –‘ There’s no way I can do that and if I try I will just mess everything up – it is all Goggle-de-Goop to me!’ But the more I looked at it, the more intrigued I became and thought ‘surely it can’t be that hard’. Then, as if it was fate, I had a Groupon email come through offering a WordPress Course for a stupid amount of money. So that was that – I downloaded the course, visited the library to get a couple of ‘Wordpress for Dummy Books’ and spent quite a few evenings working my way through the course and trawling through the books. And you know what, by the end of it I COULD DO IT and I have really enjoyed making changes to our website and including everything we wanted to include. Yes I have no doubt that I take 10 times longer than the professionals, but I bet the satisfaction I get adding a ‘slider’ to our Homepage or a’Gallery’ to our ‘How it Works’ Page takes a lot of beating.
“Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.” George Edward Woodberry
My second fear came when my ten year old came to me and asked if he could ‘hang out’ with his friends in the park for a couple of hours after school – arghhhhh! Like so many mums and dads, we want to give our children the freedom to have fun and some responsibility as they get older, but we are also full of fear and dread of what could happen. In today’s modern world of the internet, ipads and TV we are all too aware of the dangers that our children face – paedophiles, kidnappers, fast cars and dodgy people – but the more you look into it, you realise there is probably no more likelihood of these terrible things happening to our children than it was happening to us when we were children – we were just more ignorant of it then. To some extent perhaps Ignorance is Bliss. Ben is 10 (nearly 11) and a level headed kid. As the oldest of four brothers he has always been responsible and sensible beyond his years and always ‘errs on the side of caution’. So what could I do? All his friends meet up at the park and I didn’t want him to be the daggy new POMMIE Kid who wasn’t allowed to do anything. So I dug out my old Blackberry Phone so we could contact each other (I only phoned him once to check he was ok!) gave him a list of do’s and don’ts and let him go off to the park with his friends the next day. Yes, I was a bundle of nerves for the two hours he was out (and I admit I did spy on him once to check he was OK), but he was fine and enjoyed every single second of the freedom he was given. Will I worry next time he asks me if he can meet up with his mates – of course I will, but …‘To escape fear, you have to go through it, not around it’